Divorce Top Tips

1. Communicate. The more that you can talk to each other about what is going on and how you are feeling, the more straightforward things can be, which in turn can make it less costly for you. You might want to discuss the reasons for the divorce so that there are no nasty surprises and both of you feel in control of what is going on.
2. Shield the children. The children will want to see you, as their parents, being able to make reasoned decisions. They will not want to see you argue or say bad things about each other to them. The children will want to feel loved and supported by each of you as separated parents, even though you are no longer together as a couple.
3. Take legal advice early on. You need to understand what your legal rights are early on. That way, when you are discussing the arrangements with your partner, you will be discussing/agreeing all relevant issues and agreeing something that works for you in your best interest.  You do not want to later regret the decisions you make.
4. Exchange financial information. It is important that you both have a full understanding of the financial position between the two of you; that way you can make informed decisions based on relevant information. Exchanging financial information on a voluntary basis helps keep costs down and allows discussions to happen without the need for formal financial Court proceedings.
5. Get support. Separating or going through a divorce is difficult and is likened to bereavement. You will want to be able to talk to your family and friends (although not your children) about how you are feeling, particularly if there are difficult or anxious moments throughout. Consider counselling as an option if it is difficult to talk about such personal issues with family and friends. Remember your solicitor is there to support you through this as well.

Laura Martin is a Family Law Solicitor specialising in divorce and finances and is based in our Blandford office. Laura is Head of the Department and has been practising Family Law since 2004. She is a member of Resolution and is a Law Society Accredited Mediator. Julie Keogh is a Family Law Executive and specialises in children matters. Julie is based in our Blandford office but also travels to our Dorchester and Weymouth office when required. Julie has been practising Family Law since 2006.

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