Mediation Top Tips

1. It is quicker and cheaper. You can meet with a mediator as soon as you both feel ready to discuss matters.  You do not have to wait for any Court process.  You share the cost of mediation between you or as you decide and there is no doubt mediation is cheaper than formal financial Court proceedings.
2. You are in control of the process and outcome. You decide the agenda to be discussed and what is discussed in mediation.  You decide how long the meetings will last, when, and how often you meet in mediation.  You are creating your own outcomes that work for best you and your children; those outcomes are not imposed on you by a Judge in Court proceedings.
3. Discussions are child focussed. It is important that the child is the centre and primary focus of discussions.  Mediation offers flexibility where all options are considered and discussed to achieve an agreement.
4. Look forward and not back. Mediation is future focussed with the aim of trying to reach an agreement.  Focussing on the past can be difficult, upsetting, and sometimes counterproductive in helping you reach an agreement.
5. Be willing to listen and compromise. It is not always easy but it is important that you both have the opportunity to speak and be heard, that way you each have the opportunity to explain your requirements, what you want to achieve, and why.  Be prepared to see each other’s point of view and be willing to compromise to achieve a fair and realistic outcome.

Laura Martin is a Family Law Solicitor specialising in divorce and finances and is based in our Blandford office.  Laura is Head of the Department and has been practising Family Law since 2004.  She is a member of Resolution and is a Law Society Accredited Mediator.  Julie Keogh is a Family Law Executive and specialises in children matters.  Julie is based in our Blandford office but also travels to our Dorchester and Weymouth office when required. Julie has been practising Family Law since 2006.

If you would like to speak to us about your situation for a complimentary 30-minute consultation or a more in-depth discussion for a 1 hour fixed fee consultation at £132, please contact us on 01258 459361 or visit www.blanchardsbailey.co.uk/services/family-law